Os melhores ensinamentos de um bilionário de 75 anos – Paul Orfalea

I think I have two choices in life I could have been right here where I am now or I would have been the homeless there’s no place in the middle for a guy like me I’m a hustler I like to sell and I like to get down and dirty years old how did you get to be 20 years old and so tall you just do it use your eyes and your intuition well unfortunately we’re too damn rational a lot of times it’s intuitive we don’t trust our Instinct one of the things I’ve always approached my job as things went beautifully without me but whatever I did every day I made it better so I didn’t go to work things ran I had a system where it ran without me very well yeah I was a saver my whole life I I’m not a very good reader and I was rejected a lot in school I couldn’t read a bad zitzier I don’t think the girls particularly like me and I graduated from high school eighth in the bottom of my class of 1200. so you come from that background as a kid still have that with you you know what’s interesting you always have the 13 year old and the adult and they’re always fighting the 13 year old is vulnerable insecure and the adult is always fighting with that 13 year old no matter what you do in life and finally after a period of time you get older you know how to put the 13 year old in this property place your children ought to be successful in either one of two ways they had to be good in the school thing with a doctor lawyer or something with their education or they may be good with their money and I was always saving my money and trying to figure out what to do with my money your business is an instrument to make you happy you won’t it doesn’t own you and it makes it’s a fundamental thing I think a lot of businesses do is they business people they say they love their business both you can enjoy your business once you love it you’re losing your objectivity you can’t let that business own you you own it art form if Da Vinci came back and said wow man I think I could have done some more pink in that picture or a little more blue their artists it’s always can be done better then you’re never done it’s never perfect it can always be improved exciting anxiety and ambition so I was very I let anxiety and ambition and the anxiety sometimes overwhelms you and it makes you sort of introspective and insecure inevitably with things get real bad I think your spouse isn’t necessarily there for you maybe that’s justifiable who was there oh you know what a friend is a friend is somebody who’s happy when you’re happy and my parents are always in my corner and I had uncles and aunts that I knew they’re always in my corner so I think your family oh yeah happy Saturday yeah I I you work out your demons as you get older you know you got a lot of internal demons everybody does in their 20s 30s and 40s but now I’ve accepted myself in your 20s you really didn’t care what people think about you you get to be 40. you don’t really care people think about you then you get to be 60 you realize no I’ve thought of you in the first place my mother said honey in your 20s try everything in your 30s figure out what you do best in your 40s make money for what you do best if you try not to do too much in your 50s I had 30 years of business where I was worried about paying my pills and I got real tired of it please I never liked the I never liked the group investors I just don’t trust them you know what an investor is he’s Venture capitalists they’re like a hitchhiker you pick up the next thing you know you need you run out of gas or you need something and they take over the car [Music] and I never understood what the hell we needed HR for and one time they came to a group of us [Music] like a board meeting and maybe there were 20 people in the world and the HR department came in and said oh we had zero lawsuits last year for the HR like firing people and stuff and everybody’s goal that’s really good that’s really good and I said bullsh I want to predict a bunch of lawsuits that means you’re keeping a bunch of deadbeats in these stores I don’t want that zero lawsuits but that’s how most businesses they have edicts and they don’t allow ambiguity it’s I want a few lawsuits I tells me that we’re sticking our neck out of them I’ve always interviewed somebody I’d like to see and I’d like to see what they’re like he’s taking the dinner I’d like to see what they were like what they where they had a few drinks in Latin they call it in veto Veritas and wine there is truth it’s very important in the culture alcohol [Music] no because people loosen their lips are now gone every anthropological organization has a pig roast they do something to celebrate once a year and so it was just a celebration and also liquor is a great way to have intimacy and fun in a business my dad would say if business is good complain that business is bad boast so I’ve always been wary of the posters if you’re boasting and you have always look at me cars all that people are envious they’re not really that proud of you you’re happy for your success they’re a lot of times very envious you don’t want to As a matter of intimacy set yourself up as for jealousy foreign it’s just a game isn’t it what does Tom Brady say I’ve had enough of football [Music] no I don’t think that’s what you live for I think you think of it all the universe and how insignificant we are in the universe not thinking about that sometimes [Music] my Machiavellian scenes was give legory keep the money people do a lot for Glory for recognition give the glory keep the money [Music] you know sooner or later you’re going to wake up for yourself figure it out it’s it comes from within and what’s really sad is you wake up with all that the same miserable person you started with you look at these movies they say to themselves God I got everything it makes me happy how come I’m still a miserable movie star to be successful you have to have three things in balance work love and play and here it’s a tripod if you work too hard your tripod is screwed up for you but you have to have a balance and I really did strive for a balance I I really enjoyed my children I played a lot with them and uh I didn’t worry when I was supposed to worry about it but I when I was there I was there with my family success is when you’re children want to be with you when they’re adults at success how many people could have all that the kids don’t come home for the holidays come on I’ve been called it all adoption my whole life the most cool thing I’ve ever been called in my entire life [Music] foreign [Music]